Welcome to day 5 of PIVOT/Men’s Health Matters.
Day 5 is all about choices and capacity. Understanding our inner world enables our integration and ability to cope during times of stress and distress.
Life often throws curve balls and transitions can disorientate us. Being centered and anchored in life facilitates our ability to navigate these changes, be they chosen or circumstances beyond our control.
Hopefully from day 4 you were able to identify what is incongruous and creates cognitive dissonance in your life. Today is exploring the application, recognizing that when our core values align we are able to engage healthily with those we come across – especially those we are closest to.
Again today you may like to try and spend more than 5 mins exploring 5 topics using some basic starter questions – this is important stuff to get a handle on.
Today asks how are you applying your values and being true to yourself amidst life’s challenges.
Day 5 video: PIVOT/Men’s Health Matters – day 5 video
Today’s topics are:
- Time – does the way you allocate your time reflect your priorities? Do these priorities match up up with your values? Is time in short supply? How much time is spent frivolously watching TV, binging on the latest Netflix series, or consumed by some mindless app or game you’ve downloaded onto your phone? Is this use of time reflective of what’s important? Or is it competing for attention, unintentionally (or not) diverting and distracting from aspects of life you’d prefer to avoid?
- Triggers – how are you safeguarding your inner world from triggers? Do you know what they are? Are there situations you reflected on in day 4 that you realise need some attention? Perhaps you need to build some new skills or strategies to better protect yourself from being bulldozed, railroaded or blindsided and left seething?
- Transitions’ – how are you navigating changes? Change comes in all sort of ways. For some of us we take it in our stride, others see it as a challenge to master, whilst others find change a hurdle that seems difficult to overcome. Change is inevitable and this theme is less about the daily simple changes as opposed to coming to terms with and coping with the larger scale, high-impacting changes. Things like becoming a dad, change of employment, being made redundant, moving house, accepting the loss of a relationship, a love one or failed health. For others it might be the risk of re-partnering after a betrayal, or a couple fighting to reconnect once their children have all moved out. That’s the change and transition that creates tension points and can cause uncertainty and feed our insecurities.
- Thoughts – do your quiet thoughts scare you? How are you managing your thoughts and decision-making? All I’ll say here is this: if it’s estimated that the average person has over 50,000 thoughts per day, why is it we are so afraid to open up and talk about what truly matters?
- Transformation – in what ways are you growing, maturing and recovering? Similar to day 4’s final question, the focus is honed in on our own sense of self, our perceptions, our core beliefs. So again I ask: how are you looking after yourself? Physically? Emotionally? Socially? Mentally? Spiritually? Diet? Activity? Learning?
You cannot be the best person, best parent, or best partner you want to be if you don’t take care of yourself! We can’t give out of what we don’t have. Low reserves run out. Make sure you continually prioritise your own wellbeing and re-fuel in ways that refresh, recharge and renew your sense of wellbeing.
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