Introducing Anchored for Life

It’s been a long road putting together Anchored for Life. A road with many twists, turns and even a few dead ends. Completing my Master of Clinical Counselling at the end of 2017 was no mean feat!

Along the way I’ve been reminded “Why” I chose to do it; been tempted to “cut and run”; had moments of self-doubt and way too many occasions when the financial implications of study, both in terms of overall cost (they don’t come cheap!), but more so the loss of income and cash flow due to employment changes made to accommodate the needs to complete the course and it’s required placement hours, took a hefty toll!!!

At one point I faced the hard conversation that nearly resulted in my inability to cover my mortgage. Talk about stressful!

Yet, I remained dedicated, driven even, in my efforts to finish. There was merit in finishing in and of itself. But there was more to it, at least for me anyway. I’ve long had people joke about me being a psych; psych friends who said I was more psych than they were; others who after talking to me about some concern, challenge or dilemma they were confronted by would comment about how helpful I’d been, how gifted even. Others used phrases such as calling or destined to be a counsellor.

At the end of the day, others opinions, affirmations and accolades, whilst lovely to hear, aren’t my motivation, nor my reward.

I’ve tried to do a one-take video describing the basics of how the unfolding story of Anchored for Life came to be. This blog was really the first “testing the waters” of my larger vision and dream.

It’s now been several years since I was involved in a cause-based role requiring me to advocate the needs of others. Now it’s my turn. I hope that after watching this short video explaining the logo, values and meaning underpinning Anchored for Life that you may give consideration to a concept I call “Community Counselling Fund”.

Simply, would you contribute to the cost of others accessing Counselling who may otherwise be unable to afford it?

Check it out and let me know what you think.

YouTube video: Introducing Anchored for Life

When all hell breaks loose, how do you stay anchored?

During storms, during conflict, during stress, how do you remain centred, stay calm with a strong sense of security, and retain your sanity and the substance of who you are?

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When time out is needed…

Have you ever needed to simply take time out?

It’s been a while since my last blog, nearly 7 months to be precise. To those who were enjoying and regularly reading my blogs I apologise for having been silent. But it was necessary.

There are times we all need time out. And I certainly did over the past 6 months. It wasn’t that I needed time out from blogging…it was more a case that what was unfolding in life required all of my attention, demanded all of my emotional and cognitive capacity, and to be honest, I just wasn’t sure it was relevant, or how appropriate to be blogging about what I was going through.

The crux of the matter was that I was working in a public role, with a public profile and there were, how shall I say it, conflicting opinions as to how I was functioning in that role that created further stress and tension. Due to my holding in high regard my own sanity, and having been through a burnout before, I was adamant there was no way I was allowing myself to be placed in a position of vulnerability like that again…and there in lies the challenge of life.

We all have a limited coping capacity. We all have things that stretch and drain us – whether they be work, family, relationships, health issues, parenting challenges, and so the list can go on. I’m sure you can identify and make a list out of your own experiences.

I first started this blog out of encouragement from others that I had something to offer, something worth sharing, and apparently, a reasonably easy style to read and understand.

I came up with the name “Anchored” because I truly believe that we all need an anchor, especially when the storms of life hit. And when the metaphorical seas get choppy, and the winds rise up a storm with white water crashing around you and the screaming sounds of nature whirl, well, it’s at times like these that taking time out, finding a place, a space, a person, to shelter and weather out the storm is precisely what is needed.

I’ve learnt from experience that the ONLY person responsible for my welfare, my wellbeing, my health during times like this is…yep, you may have guessed it…me.

Learning how to manage competing demands, with diminished capacity, whilst ensuring that the non-negotiable relationships are nurtured, essential daily routines and needs are met, means sometimes letting go of things that, well, just don’t matter as much. It’s knowing what my priorities are, who matters, what matters and ensuring that those get the best of me, not what’s left of me.

So, I’m back…I’ll be writing more regularly and look forward to sharing and interacting from a new stage, phase and space in life, one that holds a host of new possibilities.

What about you?

Have you ever needed to simply take time out?

When did you last intentionally take time out to care for yourself?