Introducing Anchored for Life

It’s been a long road putting together Anchored for Life. A road with many twists, turns and even a few dead ends. Completing my Master of Clinical Counselling at the end of 2017 was no mean feat!

Along the way I’ve been reminded “Why” I chose to do it; been tempted to “cut and run”; had moments of self-doubt and way too many occasions when the financial implications of study, both in terms of overall cost (they don’t come cheap!), but more so the loss of income and cash flow due to employment changes made to accommodate the needs to complete the course and it’s required placement hours, took a hefty toll!!!

At one point I faced the hard conversation that nearly resulted in my inability to cover my mortgage. Talk about stressful!

Yet, I remained dedicated, driven even, in my efforts to finish. There was merit in finishing in and of itself. But there was more to it, at least for me anyway. I’ve long had people joke about me being a psych; psych friends who said I was more psych than they were; others who after talking to me about some concern, challenge or dilemma they were confronted by would comment about how helpful I’d been, how gifted even. Others used phrases such as calling or destined to be a counsellor.

At the end of the day, others opinions, affirmations and accolades, whilst lovely to hear, aren’t my motivation, nor my reward.

I’ve tried to do a one-take video describing the basics of how the unfolding story of Anchored for Life came to be. This blog was really the first “testing the waters” of my larger vision and dream.

It’s now been several years since I was involved in a cause-based role requiring me to advocate the needs of others. Now it’s my turn. I hope that after watching this short video explaining the logo, values and meaning underpinning Anchored for Life that you may give consideration to a concept I call “Community Counselling Fund”.

Simply, would you contribute to the cost of others accessing Counselling who may otherwise be unable to afford it?

Check it out and let me know what you think.

YouTube video: Introducing Anchored for Life

When all hell breaks loose, how do you stay anchored?

During storms, during conflict, during stress, how do you remain centred, stay calm with a strong sense of security, and retain your sanity and the substance of who you are?

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Being a travelling speaker…

What I’ve learnt from over 10 years as a travelling speaker…well some of it anyway.

Tomorrow I meet up with a group of colleagues so I’m giving my blog readers a sneak glimpse at what I’ll be sharing with them.

They’re not people I work with day to day, and we don’t work for the same organisation. In fact, some might say that we all work for each others competitors. Each of us have roles that see us representing our respective non-profit or NGO (non government organisation) organisations, largely to a similar demographic.

As someone who’s been doing the travelling roadshow type-role for over a decade I was asked to share around the topic of leadership within our respective environments.

So here’s a summary of the key things I’ve concluded are essential for being a travelling speaker, organisational representative and a conduit between both representing a cause and retaining personal sanity and sustained longevity.

1. Be Relational. For some this will seem obvious. For others, you’ll appreciate the sometimes intrinsic tension of having to reach designated outcomes that might short-circuit relationships in the pursuit of short-term results.  In simple terms we might make the distinction between being transactional and being transformational. The reality is that working in the non-profit sector people are generally motivated by altruistic values, not the value of the dollar.

2. Be Empowering. Whether it’s raising up and recognising volunteers, or working with paid staff, the role of a traveling speaker is to do more than simply inform, it’s even more than to be inspiring. Organisational representation requires equipping and empowering others to champion the cause (whatever it may be) when you’re not around. If any activities become dependent on a travelling speaker then I think I’ve failed. When I know that I’ve motivated and mobilised others to carry-the-cause then I know I’m on the road to success in my role.

3. Accept Transitions. Things change and that’s a fact of life. When you’ve been in a space for a season you know that others will move on before you do. The reality is that when seeking to engage with leaders and key decision-makers to build ongoing engagement with a cause/organisation, there are times when you’re faced with positional movements – leaders come and go and sometimes that takes place on the verge of a significant milestone in the relational process.  I had one situation where I was about to sign up a new 3 yr partnership after developing an engaged relationship over 2 years, only to have the primary leader move on.  The partnership was put on ice for nearly 18 months and I had to go back to square one with the new leadership.

4. Build Resilience. There are going to be disappointments, perceived rejection, frustrations and times of questioning your worth, value, influence and capacity.  I’m told I’m a great communicator, and there are times I’m puzzled by lack of response, resistance to engage, or at the seeming nit-picking that masks as reasons not to respond by people. The truth is as an itinerant speaker that there are highs and lows, times of celebration and others of commiseration. Disappointment, discouragement and disagreement are regular occurrences. Intentionally balancing these out with positive input is important to counter the see-saw affect that may lead to a slide into depression.  Always celebrate the small successes!

5. Be Engaging. Public speaking is about engaging your listener.  As a traveling speaker I love the challenge to connect to a new group of people (mostly unknown) and talk about issues of human trafficking, child labour, ethical consumption, poverty, etc.  Every group is different – the surroundings, the numbers, the style, the setting, the atmosphere, prior knowledge and a whole host of often intangible influences shape the nature of being a public speaker. No matter the topic – know your topic. No matter the setting – know who you’re talking to.  Find ways to connect quickly.  It’s not about being an entertainer, but it is about being an enthusiastic communicator.

6. Be Authentic. Staying true to who you are is crucial.  Irrespective of your personality or presenting style, be yourself! Yes we can learn principles, paradigms and even take on board specific tips about being better, but above all, be you! People see through it if you’re not genuine. Trying to present in a manner that you’re not comfortable with takes you away from being your centred self. I’ve found repeatedly across various platforms that the greatest encouragement and affirmation after presenting has come when I’ve been true to myself, my message and maintained my own style. Having done this has led to stronger outcomes as people respond to my call to action, to become change-agents and make a difference in our world.

7. Be Transformed. Personal growth, whether it be applying a new skill, attitude, behaviour or a deeper sense of spiritual formation requires intentional & ongoing transformation.  Growth doesn’t simply happen. In my experience, spiritual and personal vitality are closely integrated and when I’m faced with windows, or seasons, of constantly giving without much in return are the times I need to all the more focus intentionally deepen my own sense of spiritual formation.  Remaining centred in this way not only ensures I’m consistently growing and giving as I call others to do likewise, but I also ensure that as I enter into conversations with others I’m a non-anxious presence engaged in the moment.

For those into acronyms you may have worked out that the dominant words of the above 7 points spell out the word: RETREAT.

I find intentionally taking time out, developing and maintaining healthy rhythms of life, blocking out sections of my diary is critical to holding a healthy sense of well-being. I used to use the catch cry: “Schedule your priorities, don’t prioritise your schedule.”